Never feel guilty about life changes.

I have a confession. I've had a lot of life changes in the past few months.. and for some reason I felt guilty about them. There are just a few but they are kind of big.. considering I am supposed to be the frugal diva you all know and love.


I have a confession. I’ve had a lot of life changes in the past few months.. and for some reason I felt guilty about them. There are just a few but they are kind of big.. considering I am supposed to be the frugal diva you all know and love.

I started using Essential Oils (this has been several months now.. but some of you might now know this)

We rarely eat processed foods

We raised our food budget to $500 a month

Don’t really shop the drugstores anymore.

I’ve become a online shopping addict. (seriously, I LOVE A deal in my pj’s!!)

Why do I feel guilty? Mostly because I started this blog as the MOST.FRUGAL. person you knew. I saved money in different ways to help stretch our small, small budget. Don’t get me wrong.. I am still frugal however, I’m saving in different ways and in different areas of life.

I’ve always wanted to talk about these things with you– but I still felt as though this stigma of being a frugal diva was something I had to live up to.. because why else would you visit the blog? For the past year, I’ve been struggling with some of these things. I’ve slowly introduced my essential oil experiences but I got such a bad wrap for talking about them on the blog that I decided to stop.


I stopped posting my grocery store shopping trips because I would get responses like “that is too much money to spend”   then I would feel guilty about posting it because it was something that people didn’t want to see.

Maybe I care too much? probably.

The reality is; I’ve run this blog for over SIX years. I think I deserve to change– and so do you. ๐Ÿ™‚

My message to you is basically this– Don’t stop growing. You owe it to yourself. It’s okay to make life changes and be proud of them.

  • Mari says:

    Thank you, you couldn’t have posted this at a better time. I still appreciate all you do in your posts. It makes life easier for me, so if you’re thinking of leaving……Don’t, some of us rely on you to function on a daily basis. Shop wherever you’re happy and whenever you want. The only ones you have to answer to is yourself and your family. Once again thank you for all you do.

    • Josie says:

      I have no plans to leave Mari. I LOVE THIS! Thank you for your kind words.. I know that many people depend on the blog and I really just want to help. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Lisette says:

    I would love for you to post your grocery trips. I’m trying to incorporate more organic and less processed foods myself.

  • Aiskell says:

    Don’t even trip Josie! I can see the changes you are doing are good for your health and well-being. For instance, people think I’m crazy for spending $50 in a 35 pound bag of dog food when they can get 50 pound (yellow) bag for $20 bucks. However, I don’t want to feed my dogs tortilla chips. Same for myself, I don’t rush to get a deal on processed/frozen foods because the reality is that is not even food. You are what you eat. I have high standards for my physical and mental health. Don’t feel guilty. For those of you who called you out for spending too much. Everyone makes a choice to buy what they belief is best for them and their family. You are taking advance of your skills to bring QUALITY food to your family at a reasonable price rather than junk food for cheap. Anywho, Thanks!

    If I had to suggest anything, I would like more deals on personal care/household items.

  • Blythe says:

    I have been transitioning more to real foods and organic over the past year or so, trying to get the processed foods out of our diet and choose better personal care options that are healthier. I especially love that you do the match ups to Sprouts and talk about Zaycon Foods and alert us to great Amazon deals. It helps me find even more ways to save. I’m so sad to hear that people are being mean to you about your choices! That’s the worst. I personally love when you share your shopping trips, since sometimes $500/month seems like less and less with the rising prices of food and still trying to stick to real/organic/healthy foods. I would hate to lose a great SoCal deal blogger – there aren’t many around! Thank you for what you do — I appreciate you!!

  • Debi says:

    Thank you for all you do! It is appreciated. There will always be haters. I just started using essential oils too and received tons of criticism about how expensive they are. I can honestly say that they have saved our family tons in cold medicines, prescriptions, and other over the counter items. Plus they are so much better for our bodies! I love them.

  • marlene says:

    love your blog josie check it daily keep on doing what your doing. we have also been trying to eat healthier we shop at sprouts and try not to eat out unless we have to about once a week. thank you and hope everything is well.

  • Joan says:

    I love your site and change can be a good thing so don’t get discouraged by the haters. They don’t have to visit your site anymore if they don’t want to. Try not to take it too personally. You’ve still got a ton of followers. . I’m still frugal and I love coupon deals (even on un-healthy food) so I hope you continue to post as many deals as you can even if they aren’t things you would buy. The deals will keep me coming back. But, I gotta say I have no interest in essential oils…but go ahead and post about them if you want to, it’s your website!!!

  • Juliana says:

    please keep posting online deals! I have slowly switched from shopping at the drugstores to amazon because it is SO MUCH EASIER and when you do subscribe and save, the things just come to your house! amazing!

    and dont worry about the haters-we have to do what we need to do to be healthy. i personally find it very hard to do coupons at grocery stores as most of what i buy is free fruit, veggies, meat, milk, eggs, etc and those rarely go on sale with coupons.

  • allie says:

    <3 you're awesome. I've been reading for at least 5 years and will stick around despite changes. Change is good. I think we've all evolved in our frugality over the past few years xo

    • Josie says:

      I agree with you! When I started the blog, the economy was rough.. I think now that people have jobs and are making more money–its time to take a step up in our frugality!!

  • jk says:

    We increased our grocery budget as well, a big increase, and try to only eat fresh meats and veggies and snacks. When we are healthy, less cost on medications and Dr visits.

  • EES says:

    Visit your site every week for the grocery store matchups. Also don’t have interest in essential oils but you know what, I just don’t read those articles. Not a big deal! I read what interests me and don’t what doesn’t. I still miss Weekly Wallet but I just try to figure it out on my own. I didn’t find the search feature all that helpful since it didn’t weed out outdated information.

  • Kelly A. says:

    I can relate to you with the increasing the monthly grocery budget. If it is for the same reason as I did, you are increasing it because you see the importance of organic produce, natural meats, and other quality goodness to feed your family. That is my goal, and I am really enjoying that you’re along a similar journey with still trying to find deals on the good for you stuff, too! See, a lot of us are pretty experienced couponers and have been doing this since the (or before) the Extreme Couponing era! Since we are super couponers, this is a new challenge — to be able to have a reasonable grocery budget with organic, healthy foods too. I would love to see what deals you score on those type of things too. And no one’s judging if there’s some ice cream or cookies in there. We do have kids, too ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Eli says:

    Josie, we recently upped our food budget, too. I’d rather cut back in some other area, than be stuck eating pasta the last week of the month and stressing about how we went over again. ๐Ÿ™‚ Different seasons in life call for different approaches. You’re still doing the same thing, trying to do what is best for your family and help others through your site, just in a different way now. Don’t feel bad! I appreciate you!

  • Lisa says:

    Josie, keep on doing what you do. Someone out there appreciates it everyday!!

  • Noemi Padilla says:

    Josie, remember you have to be happy first, before anyone or anything else. I love your blog. I use a lot of your tips and frugal ideas. I even share them with my friends. I am proud of you for standing in your truth. I am so happy to hear you are normal woman and mom trying to make life happen the right way. God bless you. Keep up the great work. P.S. we must pray for the nay say-ers for they know not what they do.

  • Morgan G. says:

    I just like the coupon match-ups/deals you post – don’t care if you actually use them yourself or not ๐Ÿ™‚

  • megulle says:

    Don’t ever apologize for investing on the health of your family. You might lose some readers, but you’ll definitely keep and gain some. Your site will always be my “first love on couponing/saving money”. I find myself shopping at Costco a lot more these days for their organic/healthy foods. Sprouts has become my number 1 grocery store. They have better healthier choices even if it’s not organic. I also take advantage on Jet and Boxed deals and stock up on their healthy snacks.

  • Linda says:

    I have been reducing my visits to drug stores and getting more deals at grocery stores lately too. I find that food in drug stores is too expensive. Wags is where I buy most of my plastic bags, napkins, paper plates, and cleaning products. They are less expensive. Sometimes WAGS has inexpensive eggs. But grocery stores do have good deals. When adding coupons and using their online coupons, I save a lot. At Vons I am always looking for that 50% savings at the bottom of the receipt. Sometimes it’s at 44% – but by planning I can usually get it to 50%. My stock pile is strong and most of my food is through grocery stores. Albertson’s had the best sales, but they are not in my area anymore. Vons has been pretty good lately. Ralphs is ok – but not as good as Vons of late.

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