Being a mother and a wife is a blessing, yet it can be overwhelming. It’s difficult when your life revolves around your family, and it looks like nothing is happening in YOUR own life.
You wake up exhausted and sleep-deprived because you’ve got a long list of chores and little or no help. It soon becomes a lonely and wearisome journey, and at some point, you begin to feel a sense of disconnect with the world and eventually your family.
But you can be happy as a stay-at-home-mom and wife once you decide to be deliberate about your daily activities and your mental health. Here are a few ways to be excited about your role as a homemaker and how to be a happy stay at home mom.
Have a Routine
You need to settle into a routine. Get some activities going.
You need to think about your hobbies, what do you enjoy doing, what makes YOU happy? If you’re a bibliophile, add the library and a book club to your schedule. If you’re a foodie, get some lunch dates lined up.
Just make sure at least one of the daily activities you engage in is something YOU like! Read in-depth morning routines here if you’re interested.
Get Yourself Some Mom Friends
Nobody has your back like a mom friend, trust us. She knows exactly what you’re going through and she can either proffer solutions or listen to your rant. An inexpensive therapist.
Engaging in some mummy and me activities also help your sanity. This could be once or more each week, depending on your family routine and timetable.
You can check online for mummy groups around you. Facebook groups are good for this because they’ll suggest the ones based on your location and interests. Maybe you can find some mommy friends here in our FB group.
Mummy and Me exercise sessions are greatly encouraged because you get fit and healthier while also socializing with other moms or stay at home wives.
Get Some Help Sometimes
You love your children, yes, but sometimes you need a break from all the crying and running around. If you ever feel like you’re reaching a tipping point, talk to your partner and arrange for him to care for the children or get a nanny or childcare professional to take them off your hands for a few hours.
You’ll be surprised at how rejuvenated you would feel after getting some time to yourself.
Do this at least once a month, for the sake of your sanity.
Don’t be afraid to switch up that routine.
Even if you’ve got your routine on lockdown, there are days you may feel bored or burnt out from that routine. Don’t be afraid to change up the routine and be flexible.
Life doesn’t always turn out the way you’d like. Things happen!
Set Some Goals for Yourself
You may be feeling dissatisfied and overwhelmed by your role as a stay-at-home mom because it looks like there isn’t a sense of accomplishment attached to your job description. So why don’t you set some for yourself?
Your goal may be a fitness goal, a new online course you would like to take, or maybe you would like to start a business. Setting these goals and including the timelines for achievement will amp up your drive and passion. Don’t be afraid to push yourself. Set daring and ambitious goals that will excite you to put in the work.
This is a good thing. You have the advantage of being your own boss and work at your own pace.
Schedule Date Night
Your husband was the love of your life before children ever came into the picture, and he should not be neglected. Dress up in a sexy dress, get your hair done, wear some makeup, drink some wine, and you’ll be as good as new.
Date night will remind you of your young love days, and you might even get some action later at night.
Spend Quality Time with Your Little Ones
It’s easy to get so engrossed in the daily activities that you forget even to have some fun and playtime with the ones who you’re staying home for. The laundry, the cooking, and the dishes can wait. Your children deserve a happy mother who is also present.
Being home with them doesn’t automatically equal being present.
Spend some time sitting on the floor, coloring, building lego bricks, or any activity that interests them. On the days when everything feels so dark and gloomy, their smiles and laughter will remind you of your reason, and it will all be worth it.
One of the things that overwhelm stay-at-home-moms is a dent in their routine and lack of perfection. Don’t pressure yourself and don’t allow anyone to pressure you.
Your house doesn’t need to look like the cover of a ‘housekeeping magazine.’ It’s okay for your children not to have perfect meals all the time. You’re allowed to make mistakes and to forget soccer practice.
Sometimes, things will be out of your hands, and you need to be able to laugh it off and find a solution without it ruining your entire day.
Talk to Someone
If you feel your mental health slipping away or some form of depression, talk to a health care professional or a therapist. There’s no shame in getting help. Your job is hard enough.
Happiness is a State of Mind
Finally, happiness is a state of mind, and it starts with you. Regardless of the chaos or craziness in your environment, always choose a ‘joy approach.’
Tell yourself, ‘Today I choose to be happy.’
Even though some studies have shown that stay-at-home moms are more likely to be depressed than working moms, refuse to be just another statistic.
An unhappy mom or wife leads to a heartbroken family. You set the tone for everything in your household, and you deserve to prioritize your happiness and mental health. Caring for your mental health and yourself is also caring for them because if you’re not at your best, you can’t give them the best.
You’re a Phenomenal Person
Remember, you are not just a mom or wife; you’re a phenomenal woman with a defined sense of purpose and a lot of love in her heart.
Do you have more tips on how to be a happy as a stay-at-home mom and wife? Leave a comment below to let us know!